About N. Edward Timken, J.D., LL.M.

Nelson Edward Timken is a highly accomplished legal professional with over 30 years of diverse experience, encompassing extensive judicial clerkships, private litigation, and advanced alternative dispute resolution (ADR) practice. His career is marked by a profound commitment to legal education and a comprehensive understanding of dispute resolution, both domestically and internationally.


Legal Education: Nelson’s robust academic background includes a Juris Doctor (J.D.) from St. John’s University School of Law (1988). He further distinguished himself with an LL.M. in International Dispute Resolution from Fordham University School of Law (2022). His LL.M. thesis, “A Proposal to Establish an International Commercial Arbitration Ethics Panel and Hotline to Resolve Disclosure and Conflicts Issues,” has been published and recognized as a substantive contribution to ADR ethics. Demonstrating his continuous pursuit of excellence in the field, Nelson also earned a Certificate in International Commercial Arbitration from King’s College, London (2025). He holds a B.A. in Political Science (cum laude) from Queens College, CUNY (1985).

Association Memberships: 

  1. New York American Inn of Court- Co-chair, ADR Team
  2. Federal Bar Association, SDNY Branch
  3. Palm Beach County (FL) Bar Association
  4. Orange County (FL) Bar Association
  5. Florida Professional Mediator Association
  6. Ukrainian Mediation Academy (UA)
  7. Ukrainian-American Bar Association (US)
  8. Civil Mediation Council (UK)
 
 
 
Academic Engagement:  Nelson Edward Timken is committed to enriching the academic environment and mentoring emerging legal talent. This Fall 2025, he will be a Visiting Law Professor at Széchenyi István University in Győr, Hungary. There, he will teach classes on:
  • International Commercial Dispute Resolution in Cross-
  • Border Transactions (for Hungarian law students, an ADR elective subject).
  • Financial Disputes in Cross-Border Transactions (for international students in the International Relations program, an International Finance subject).

  • Consumer Protection and Online Consumer Dispute Resolution in the USA (for international students in the Modern Technologies and Cybersecurity Law MA program, an E-commerce Law subject).

“Mediate, don’t litigate. Preserve relationships.”

Judicial Clerkship Experience: Nelson’s extensive judicial clerkship experience includes nearly three decades as a Principal Law Clerk with the New York State Unified Court System, from 1994 to 2023. In this role, he collaborated closely with judges in various court divisions, including the Commercial Division, Guardianship Part, and Foreclosure Part, providing critical legal analysis and support in diverse and complex legal matters. He authored and refined judicial opinions, decisions, and orders, demonstrating exceptional legal research, writing, and analytical skills across a wide range of substantive law. His responsibilities also included conducting in-depth legal research on complex statutory and case law, assisting judges in negotiating and finalizing settlement agreements, and managing extensive caseloads. This experience provided him with a nuanced understanding of legal positions and strategic dispute resolution.


ADR Experience: As the founder and lead of Timken Dispute Resolution, LLC since 2024, Nelson specializes in providing mediation and arbitration services for diverse clients, and resolving complex legal issues. He engages with a wide array of disputes, including commercial matters (breach of contract, intellectual property, construction, and employment) and civil matters (personal injury, professional malpractice, and real estate). Nelson utilizes both facilitative mediation and arbitration techniques, offering direct insight into negotiation strategies, ethical considerations, and the practical application of dispute resolution theory.

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Mastering Mediation Advocacy: Essential Skills for the Modern Litigator

      John S. Siffert     Nelson Edward Timken

By John Siffert & Nelson Edward Timken

Commentary

Mastering Mediation Advocacy: Essential Skills for the Modern Litigator

(Published in New York Law Journal July 24,2025 pages 8-9)

BY JOHN S. SIFFERT AND NELSON EDWARD TIMKEN*

Fifty years ago, the Court of Appeals Mediation Program (CAMP) began what has become a foundational shift in how disputes are resolved. As Judge Raymond Lohier of the U.S. Court of Appeals for the Second Circuit succinctly observed on CAMP’s half-century mark, judges and mediators share a common purpose: resolving cases. This deceptively simple statement underscores a profound truth: mediation, particularly court ordered mediation, is no longer an ancillary exercise but a cornerstone of our justice system. It is here to stay, and for lawyers, mastering its unique demands is paramount to effective client advocacy.

Elevating Mediation Advocacy: The City Bar ADR Committee Initiative

Recognizing this critical need to train lawyers for mediation, the Alternative Dispute Resolution (ADR) Committee of the New York City Bar Association, chaired by Susan Salazar, established an initiative to equip attorneys with the necessary skills, ethical understanding, and practical knowledge to effectively represent their clients’ interests within the mediation process, ultimately promoting efficient and fair dispute resolution. In support of this objective, it established a subcommittee dedicated to enhancing lawyers’ effectiveness in court administered mediations. This subcommittee is planning a December program to address how lawyers can best help their clients achieve mediated resolutions that serve their interests. The subcommittee’s mission is to secure “buy-in” from experienced litigators regarding mediation’s legitimacy as a bona fide dispute resolution method.

While formal training for litigators in court-mandated mediation has been limited, a growing body of literature and practical wisdom is readily available. Scholars have identified successful mediation strategies and techniques applied across diverse political and business contexts (Christopher W. Moore, “The Mediation Process: Practical Strategies for Resolving Conflict” (4th ed. 2014)). Litigators can also gain invaluable insights from experienced mediators who have served for years on federal and state court panels, many with decades of private mediation experience with organizations like the American Arbitration Association, CPR, and the Chartered Institute.

Unlike court proceedings, mediations are largely party controlled. Participants decide on in-person or remote sessions, whether to engage in joint sessions or remain in separate caucus rooms, and how to handle pre-mediation statements—exchanging them with the other side or submitting them ex parte to the mediator for confidential review.

Beyond the Battlefield: Why Mediation Demands Different Legal Skills

Traditional legal training hones adversarial skills. Lawyers learn to litigate through mock arguments, jury addresses, and witness examinations, perfecting the art of non-concession, strategic surprise, and guarded questioning. Years of depositions, courtroom battles, and brief writing further burnish these abilities, with the ultimate goal of winning or minimizing loss. These “show of strength” tactics can be effective in direct settlement negotiations. However, mediation operates on a fundamentally different premise. Mediators are trained to facilitate resolution even when a clear “winner” isn’t apparent. Historically, litigators have received scant training or guidance in this distinct process. Effective representation in mediation is a teachable and essential skill. Lawyers who apply a purely litigation- focused approach in mediation risk undermining the mediator’s efforts and hindering a resolution that could benefit all parties.

Some cynically suggest that litigators dislike mediation, purposefully sabotaging it to prolong lawsuits and accrue fees. This view disregards the profession’s foundational commitment to client service.

Lawyers are bound by rigorous ethical rules, professional canons, and civility. A lawyer’s primary duty is to zealously advocate for clients, but always within the bounds of law and professional responsibility.

The Counselor’s Mantle: Shifting Mindsets for Success

When in “mediation mode,” litigators have many additional pathways to pursue. By embracing the role of “counselor,” lawyers are better positioned to help clients reach their own conclusions about what serves their best interests. This doesn’t mean abandoning the duty to advise clients on their rights, likelihood of success, or risks of pursuing claims (Gary G. Corum, “The Advocate’s Role in Mediation,” 4 Pepp. Disp. Resol. L.J. 209, 215–16 (2004)). Rather, viewing their role as a counselor allows lawyers to temporarily set aside the “sharpened tools of a zealous advocate,” enabling clients to explore their true desires and the value of achieving them (Robert C. Bordone & Michael Moffitt, “How Do Lawyers Negotiate? The Role of Zealous Advocacy,” 33 Harv. Negot. L. Rev. 1, 10-12 (2018)).

For this reason, some mediators encourage lawyers to help clients differentiate between “deal points” requiring monetary payment and those that can be satisfied through non-monetary “principles.” Sharpening the focus on the needed relief can be more effective than sharpening litigation tools (See generally Carrie J. Menkel-Meadow, “Mediating Solvable Problems: An Essay on the Art of Problem- Solving,” 11 NEGO. & CONFLICT MGMT. RES. 11, 22-24 (2018)). This might involve drafting a client-facing statement that summarizes the adversary’s strongest arguments, how to overcome them, and a risk analysis for each. Setting realistic goals is key (Leonard L. Riskin & James E. Westbrook, “Dispute Resolution and Lawyers” 297–99 (3d ed. 2005)). Often, it’s worth reminding a client to “be careful what you wish for,” as the image of a dog catching a car comes to mind.

Because mediation is less formal than court proceedings, counsel may be permitted ex parte, premediation discussions with the mediator. These sessions offer opportunities to alert the mediator to anticipated problems and explore potential solutions (Dwight Golann, “Mediating Legal Disputes” 101– 03 (3d ed. 2016)). While a realistic settlement plan is beneficial, it’s crucial not to be fixated on it and to remain open to unexpected pathways that may emerge (Robert H. Mnookin, Scott R. Peppet, & Andrew Tulumello, “Beyond Winning: Negotiating to Create Value in Deals and Disputes,” 141- 43 (2000)).

Client-Centric Resolution: A Duty to Mediate in Good Faith

It is a lawyer’s professional duty to participate in mediations in good faith and help clients resolve disputes. Consider the multinational CEO who questioned why his counsel wasn’t advising mediation, given that over 95% of cases settle pretrial and his case wouldn’t see trial for years. An early resolution, he rightly asserted, would save untold resources, prevent corporate distraction, and mitigate substantial legal fees and costs.

The data unequivocally support this perspective. Court systems face rising caseloads and struggle with timely dispositions. New York state and federal courts have implemented robust alternative dispute resolution (ADR) procedures to address this challenge.

Federal courts in New York, for instance, utilize mediation programs to manage pending civil lawsuits, enabling them to keep pace with new filings. Less than 2% of federal cases currently proceed to trial; the rest are dismissed, voluntarily discontinued, or settled. The 2022 Report of the Southern District of New York’s Mediation Services Committee notes that nearly 2/3 of referred cases were outside automatic mediation protocols, and approximately 65% of all mediated cases resolved successfully. The lawyers appearing in these mediations are the same litigators handling the cases in court. As court-administered mediations become more prevalent, mediators observe that many cases that should settle fail to resolve because some lawyers inadvertently or purposefully work at cross-purposes, disrupting the mediation’s momentum (See, e.g., Leonard L. Riskin, “Mediator Orientations, Strategies and Techniques,” 1 J. Disp. Resol. 7, 24–26 (1994)). For instance, where counsel for the plaintiff, perhaps overly confident in their trial position, consistently makes demands that were not only financially unrealistic but also non- negotiable from the outset. Rather than exploring underlying interests or potential creative solutions, the lawyer focuses exclusively on the maximum possible court award, even dismissing offers that genuinely represented a reasonable settlement range. This rigid adherence to an extreme position, coupled with a refusal to engage in the give-andtake inherent in mediation, effectively shuts down meaningful negotiation. The lawyer’s approach, whether stemming from a lack of mediation experience or a deliberate tactic to signal strength for trial, inadvertently signals to the opposing side that settlement is not a serious consideration, leading to an impasse despite the presence of common ground.

Preparing the Client: The Key to Productive Mediation

A lawyer’s role in mediation extends beyond legal strategy; it encompasses comprehensive client preparation. Many clients arrive at mediation with misconceptions, expecting a miniature trial or a quick, effortless resolution. Failing to properly prepare them can lead to frustration, unrealistic expectations, and ultimately, a breakdown in the mediation process. Effective client preparation involves:

  • Setting clear expectations: Explaining the process, its voluntary nature, and the goals of
  • Discussing potential outcomes: Beyond monetary awards, exploring creative solutions that address underlying interests.
  • Reviewing strengths and weaknesses: A candid assessment of the case, including the best and worst alternatives to a negotiated agreement (BATNA and WATNA)
  • Defining the client’s role:. Emphasizing their active participation and decision-making power.
  • Addressing emotional factors: Acknowledging the emotional toll of disputes and preparing clients for potentially difficult conversations.
 

By investing time in robust client preparation, lawyers not only empower their clients but also significantly increase the likelihood of achieving a beneficial and lasting mediated resolution.

Confidentiality: The Fuel That Powers Mediation

When emotional factors are present, assuring the client of mediation’s confidentiality can alleviate hesitation. Court-administered mediations typically offer stronger confidentiality protections than those existing in New York, which is not governed by the Uniform Mediation Act (John Lande, “The Confidentiality of Mediation Communications: A Guide for States,” 2003 J. Disp. Resol. 1, 3 (2003)).

Counsel must be aware of the specific court rules governng mediation conducted by their prequalified panels.

Equipping Lawyers for Effective Court-Administered Mediation

Numerous resources exist for lawyers seeking to enhance their effectiveness in court-administered mediation (See, e.g., J. H. Stark & D. N. Frenkel, “The Practice of Mediation: A Video-Integrated Text” (2d ed. 2012); Roger Fisher, William Ury, & Bruce Patton, “Getting to Yes: Negotiating Agreement Without Giving In” (3d ed. 2011)). The Southern District of New York Pro Bono Mediation Office, for example, offers a guide titled “Preparing for Mediation: A Resource for Advocates.” This step-by-step introduction to the Southern District’s Mediation program applies broadly to almost any mediation, regardless of court or private administration. It outlines essential preparation steps for both lawyers and their clients, including how to explain the process to clients.

Scholars have published studies of their findings about what mediation techniques contribute to mediation success. A rigorous analysis of Best Alternative to a Negotiated Agreement (BATNA) versus Worst Alternative to a Negotiated Agreement (WATNA) can be a powerful “reality check” for clients, illuminating the wisdom of a mediated resolution (Robert H. Mnookin, Scott R. Peppet, & Andrew S. Tulumello, “Beyond Winning: Negotiating to Create Value in Deals and Disputes” 19-21 (2000)). Another key insight is encouraging cooperative rather than adversarial behavior, especially where longstanding or future relationships are at stake, allowing both sides to “win” (Roger Fisher, William Ury, & Bruce Patton, “Getting to Yes: Negotiating Agreement Without Giving In” 31-33 (3d ed. 2011)).

Scholars also report that irreconcilable differences can be overcome by fostering open-mindedness to all possibilities. This involves parties collaboratively articulating all their goals and potential ways to achieve them, before eliminating options that conflict with the other side’s priorities. This “Getting to Yes” approach, famously credited with outcomes like the treaty that has kept nuclear weapons from orbiting the earth, can yield surprising results.

The literature also suggests improving communication through “active listening,” asking clarifying questions, and summarizing the other side’s viewpoint (John W. Cooley, “Mediation Advocacy” 120-22 (2d ed. 2006)). These strategies are particularly useful during joint sessions or caucuses. When counsel incorporates mediation friendly communication methods, clients are more likely to model similar behavior, finding common ground (Lawrence Susskind & Jeffrey Cruikshank, “Breaking Robert’s Rules: The New Way to Run Your Meeting, Build Consensus, and Get Results” 129-31 (2006)). An attorney’s demeanor can also be influenced by the mediator’s tone and approach to adversarial tactics (Kimberlee Kovach, “Mediation: Principles and Practice” 211-13 (6th ed. 2016)).

Conclusion

The City Bar’s ADR Committee is committed to enhancing lawyers’ effectiveness in resolving cases through mediation. Research consistently highlights the benefits of mediation and the crucial role of the mediator, with a growing focus on how lawyers can best advocate within this process—ultimately leading to better outcomes for clients. The practical techniques and strategic mindset necessary for effective mediation lawyering are teachable and essential for today’s legal practitioners. We encourage lawyers participating in court-mandated mediations to attend our December program. It’s designed to equip you with the skills, ethical understanding, and techniques needed to help your clients achieve their best mediated outcomes and secure resolutions that truly serve their interests.

 
  

*JOHN S. SIFFERT, FCIArb, is a partner at Lankler Siffert & Wohl, adjunct professor at NYU Law School, a member of the Judicial Advisory Committee on Evidence Rules, co-author of “Modern Federal Jury Instructions,” and a fellow of the American College of Trial Lawyers. 

NELSON TIMKEN has been a court attorney with the New York State Unified Court System for over 24 years. He has served as a court attorney in the Commercial Division of the Supreme Court, in IAS parts of the Supreme Court, in Civil Court, and in Criminal Court. He is also a trained mediator and arbitrator in Small Claims Court and Part 137 Attorney Fee Disputes.

Reprinted with permission from the July 24, 2025 New York Law Journal © 2025 ALM Global Properties, LLC. All rights reserved. Further duplication without permission is prohibited, contact 877-256-2472 or asset-and-logo-licensing@alm.com.

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The Peacemaker’s Paradigm: A Guide to Advanced Mediation Advocacy for Attorneys – Mediate.com

The Peacemaker’s Paradigm: A Guide to Advanced Mediation Advocacy for Attorneys

Summary:

This article explores the fundamental shift in legal practice from an adversarial litigation model to a collaborative mediation advocacy approach. It defines mediation advocacy as a strategic problem-solving discipline where attorneys guide clients in a non-confrontational manner, emphasizing the search for mutually beneficial solutions beyond what traditional courts can offer. The document also highlights influential works and authors who have shaped the field, such as Forrest Woody Mosten and Christopher Moore, providing both theoretical foundations and practical guidance. It details the critical phases of mediation, from extensive pre-mediation preparation, including client counseling and strategic planning, to the attorney’s dynamic role during the session itself, focusing on collaborative communication and real-time client management. Ultimately, the text posits that the future of the legal profession lies in attorneys embracing this “peacemaker’s paradigm” to deliver holistic dispute resolution services.

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The legal profession is undergoing a fundamental transformation in its approach to conflict resolution. For centuries, the adversarial system of litigation has been the default mode for resolving disputes, casting attorneys in the role of “gladiators” whose primary function is to argue a case and dismantle the opposing party’s position [1]. While this model remains a cornerstone of the legal system, the rise of mediation has necessitated the development of a distinct and specialized skill set: mediation advocacy. This new paradigm requires a profound departure from the traditional litigation mindset, shifting the attorney’s role from that of a combatant to that of a strategic problem-solver and collaborative guide [2].

Defining Mediation Advocacy: A Strategic Framework for Lawyers

Mediation advocacy is a skilled technique for presenting and arguing a client’s position, needs, and interests in a non-adversarial manner [3]. This approach is not simply a less aggressive form of litigation; it is a different discipline entirely [4]. An attorney engaged in mediation advocacy must provide their client with the legal expertise and knowledge necessary to gain clear and informed insight into the mediation process [5]. Rather than solely presenting an argument, the attorney functions as a counselor who allows the client to speak for themselves, offering support and advice throughout the proceedings [6, 7]. This fundamental redefinition of the attorney’s role is critical, as a lawyer who enters mediation with a purely adversarial mindset is likely to undermine the very principles that make the process effective [8].

The Problem-Solving Paradigm: A Departure from Adversarialism

The core philosophical shift underlying mediation advocacy is the move from a “hired gun” mentality to a problem-solving approach [9, 10]. The objective of mediation is not to “win” an argument but to search for a mutually satisfactory and beneficial solution that addresses both parties’ underlying needs and interests [11, 12]. This is a crucial distinction, as many of the issues that drive a dispute—such as personal relationships, emotional distress, or future business interests—may be entirely outside the scope of what a judge can address [13].

The attorney who recognizes this shift understands that a well-settled case, like a well-tried case, requires diligent and thorough preparation [14]. However, this preparation cannot be the same as trial preparation [15]. The problem-solving framework requires a collaborative approach where attorneys partner with their clients rather than simply posturing for them [16]. This paradigm demands a new professional identity from the lawyer, one focused on cultivating civility and a vision of deliberation rather than being a “connoisseur of conflict” [17]. A lawyer’s effectiveness in this environment is directly tied to their ability to let go of the adversarial cloak and adopt a collaborative mindset that prioritizes finding a workable solution over winning an argument [18].

Ethical and Professional Considerations for the Mediation Advocate

Mediation’s effectiveness is built upon a foundation of confidentiality [19]. This principle allows parties and their counsel to speak openly about their case, their legitimate needs, and potential settlement offers without fear that these communications will be used against them in court if the mediation fails [20]. A primary ethical duty of the mediation advocate is to ensure the client fully understands this principle, especially regarding the confidential nature of both the initial joint session and the private caucuses with the mediator [21].

Beyond confidentiality, a lawyer must manage a client’s expectations with care and honesty [22]. Trust can be severely damaged if a client learns of potential risks for the first time during a mediation session, such as a substantial risk of summary judgment or a higher-than-expected legal fee forecast [23, 24]. To prevent this, a lawyer should discuss reasonable expectations at the initial meeting and explain the overwhelming likelihood of resolution by settlement rather than trial [25]. By proactively addressing these issues, the attorney can prepare the client for a productive experience and foster a more realistic, open-minded approach to settlement [26].

II. Foundational Texts and Influential Voices in Mediation Advocacy

The field of mediation advocacy has been significantly shaped by a number of seminal works that provide both the theoretical underpinnings and practical guidance for legal professionals. Among the most influential voices are those of Forrest Woody Mosten and Lara Traum, whose contributions have been pivotal in defining the modern attorney’s role [27].

The Mosten and Traum Contribution: An In-Depth Summary of Effectively Representing Clients in Family Mediation

The book Effectively Representing Clients in Family Mediation, co-authored by Forrest S. Mosten, Elizabeth Potter Scully, and Lara Traum, is widely considered a leading guide for lawyers seeking to navigate the paradigm shift from a litigator to a peacemaker [28]. Drawing on over a century of combined experience, the authors offer a “step-by-step manual” that helps attorneys create a more lucrative and sustainable practice by representing clients in family mediation [29, 30].

The book frames the lawyer’s role as a “dispute resolution manager” who helps clients resolve their family law disputes without relying on the court system [31]. It offers detailed advice on selecting a mediator, preparing clients for mediation, and coaching them through the negotiation process to reach a settlement [32]. Its content is praised for being a masterpiece of both the “art and science of enlightened family mediation” [33]. The authors’ respect and empathy for their clients are evident in their ability to distill confusing legal concepts into “manageable chunks” and “non-jargony, reassuring, plain-English,” making the book an accessible and invaluable resource [34].

Forrest Woody Mosten’s Broader Impact: An Analysis of The Complete Guide to Mediation

Forrest S. Mosten’s influence extends beyond family law, as evidenced by his earlier work, The Complete Guide to Mediation [35]. This treatise is described as a “cutting-edge” and “comprehensive sourcebook” that provides a conceptual, policy-based, and skill-building overview of the field [36]. It is unique in its focus on the lawyer’s dual role as both a client representative and a neutral mediator [37].

A key contribution of this work was the introduction of “unbundling” legal services, a concept that was so groundbreaking it formed the basis for statutory and judicial reforms [38, 39]. The book is also lauded for its wealth of practical resources, including an extensive appendix with sample agreements, client handouts comparing different dispute resolution methods, and model standards for family and divorce mediation [40]. The book’s practical utility and its role as a “blueprint for establishing and operating a mediation practice” have made it a foundational text for lawyers, therapists, and other professionals [41].

Key Scholarly and Practitioner Works: A Broader Literature Review

While Mosten’s works are central to the field, other influential publications provide a broader context for the modern mediation advocate. John Cooley’s book, Mediation Advocacy, is described as a perfect companion for lawyers at any stage of their career [42]. It leads attorneys step-by-step through the stages of mediation, with each chapter featuring checklists to help lawyers “think and act strategically” [43]. The text emphasizes that being an expert in the mediation process is essential for effective representation today [44].

Christopher Moore’s The Mediation Process is hailed as “the most comprehensive book written on mediation,” making it a foundational resource for new and experienced conflict managers [45]. It provides a deep dive into practical strategies, theoretical backgrounds, and case studies across a wide variety of disputes [46]. A thorough understanding of this work allows an advocate to see the process from the mediator’s perspective, a crucial skill for strategic representation [47].

Ken Cloke’s Mediating Dangerously challenges mediators to move beyond a focus on simple settlement and to engage with the deeper, more transformative aspects of conflict [48]. Cloke encourages a challenging of assumptions and a willingness to engage in the “risky practices of forgiveness and honesty” to get to the heart of the matter [49]. This perspective serves as an important reminder that mediation is not just a procedural formality but an opportunity for profound and lasting change [50].

The principles laid out in these books, particularly the negotiation framework from Roger Fisher and William Ury’s Getting to Yes, are consistently cited as the cornerstones of modern mediation advocacy [51]. The core principles—separating the person from the problem, focusing on interests instead of positions, developing options for mutual gain, and focusing on a client’s best alternative to a negotiated agreement (BATNA)—provide a systematic approach to problem-solving that is essential for any effective advocate [52, 53].

III. Phase I: The Attorney’s Guide to Pre-Mediation Preparation

The success of a mediation session is not determined in the caucus room alone, but rather in the weeks and days leading up to it [54, 55]. The preparation phase is, in many respects, more critical than the mediation itself, as it lays the foundation for a productive and realistic negotiation [56]. A failure to prepare the client adequately—both legally and emotionally—can lead to an early impasse, regardless of the attorney’s in-session skills [57].

The Crucial First Steps: Initial Client Counseling and Goal Setting

The attorney’s first task is to engage in thorough client counseling to manage expectations and address emotional states [58]. Attorneys should proactively discuss their client’s motivations for litigating, their impressions of the legal system, and their expectations for an outcome [59]. When a lawyer identifies intense emotions or unrealistic expectations, they should consider discussing these with the mediator in advance, as many mediators are open to a pre-mediation call with counsel to address such issues [60].

For high-conflict cases or those involving significant emotional distress, a lawyer may consider having a mental health professional provide pre-mediation coaching or even attend the session [61]. In such instances, a therapist can act as an “emotional anchor” for the client, reducing anxiety and stress, and helping them to deliver a powerful “Impact Statement” that describes their emotional and physical pain in a way that is often not possible in litigation [62].

Regardless of whether a therapist is involved, the attorney can coach the client on four key skills that are essential for mediation success [63]:

  • Managed Emotions: The ability to stay calm and focused, even when hearing proposals or points of view that are upsetting. Clients can be taught to use short, self-affirming statements to help them focus on a future agreement rather than past grievances [64, 65].
  • Flexible Thinking: The capacity to think creatively about solutions. This involves preparing multiple proposals for each issue to avoid getting stuck if the first one is rejected [66].
  • Moderate Behaviors: Adherence to the ground rules of mediation, such as not interrupting and using “I” statements to avoid defensiveness in the other party [67].
  • Check Yourself: A self-monitoring skill that reminds the client to actively apply the other three skills during the session [68].

Strategic and Procedural Design

Meticulous preparation extends to the strategic and procedural design of the mediation [69, 70]. The attorney must engage in a rigorous case analysis to determine their client’s BATNA (Best Alternative to a Negotiated Agreement), WATNA (Worst Alternative), and RATNA (Reasonable Alternative) [71]. This analysis grounds the client in reality and helps them define a realistic “reservation number”—their last, best, and final settlement position [72]. Decision tree analysis can be a useful tool to assist in this process [73].

The selection of the mediator is another critical step [74]. The attorney should assist the client in making an informed choice based on the mediator’s background, experience, and specific style, whether it be evaluative (offering an opinion on the merits), facilitative (guiding communication), or transformative (focusing on relationship dynamics) [75]. The attorney should also memorialize a mediation agreement that defines logistical details, such as the location, mediator compensation, and time parameters [76]. A pre-mediation call with the mediator is vital to discuss special challenges, such as strained relations between parties or unrealistic expectations [77].

The Comprehensive Client Preparation Checklist for Attorneys

To ensure all critical aspects are addressed, a comprehensive pre-mediation checklist can be invaluable [78]. This guide synthesizes best practices for preparing both the attorney and the client.

  • Case Analysis & Strategy

    The attorney should decide to act as a problem solver, not an adversary [79]. All fact-gathering, including discovery, should be completed beforehand to prevent surprises [80]. The attorney must analyze the case to determine the Best Alternative to a Negotiated Agreement (BATNA), Worst Alternative to a Negotiated Agreement (WATNA), and Reasonable Alternatives to a Negotiated Agreement (RATNA) [81]. This includes developing and researching key legal and factual issues, evaluating the strengths and weaknesses of both their case and the opposing party’s, and anticipating the arguments the other side is likely to make [82].

  • Client Counseling

    The attorney must have discussions with the client about settlement, their motivations, and expectations [83]. It is important to explain the overwhelming likelihood of a settlement rather than a trial [84] and to advise the client of potential risks, such as summary judgment or legal fees, to prevent surprises [85]. The attorney should discuss the client’s needs and interests that might not be available through litigation [86] and coach the client on key mediation skills like managed emotions and moderate behaviors [87]. Finally, the attorney helps the client determine their opening settlement position and a final reservation number [88].

  • Logistics & Administration

    Key logistical steps include selecting an appropriate mediator (e.g., facilitative vs. evaluative) [89] and confirming who will attend the mediation, ensuring all decision-makers are present [90]. A pre-mediation call to the mediator is vital to discuss special challenges [91]. It is also necessary to prepare and exchange pre-mediation briefs [92] and gather all necessary documents, including discovery responses, financial information, and expert opinions [93]. The attorney should also draft electronic and hard copies of the settlement agreement and releases in advance [94].

  • Financial & Legal Considerations

    The attorney should consider the details of any insurance coverage, assess attorney fees incurred to date by both parties, and review the tax implications of the potential settlement [95]. If board or government approval is needed, the attorney should determine when it could occur [96]. A final review of the mediated agreement before the client signs is a critical final step [97].

IV. Phase II: The Attorney’s Role and Conduct During the Mediation Session

The mediation session itself is where the attorney’s preparation is put into practice. The attorney’s role during this phase is a dynamic and multi-faceted one, requiring a nuanced understanding of when to advocate fiercely and when to foster collaboration [98].

The Joint Session: Strategic Opening Statements and Collaborative Communication

The joint session, where all parties are present, is a critical opportunity for the attorney to demonstrate the strength of their case [99]. Attorneys may make strong, persuasive opening statements to show their commitment to their client’s position and their preparedness to proceed to trial [100]. However, this is not a trial, and the most effective advocacy requires a collaborative approach [101]. Remarks should never be inflammatory, belligerent, or personally offensive, as such behavior can widen rifts and hinder progress [102, 103]. The attorney must educate their client that while a strong opening is often expected, resolution is more likely when a collaborative mindset is adopted [104].

A key aspect of this phase is the attorney’s role as a counselor who encourages and supports the client to speak for themselves [105, 106]. Direct client participation provides them with a firsthand view of the opponent’s arguments and can act as a powerful reality check, helping to manage previously unrealistic expectations [107]. The attorney’s presence serves to advise on substantive law and to ensure the client is prepared to respond to new information without damaging their trust in the legal process [108].

The Private Caucus: Navigating Negotiation and Reality-Testing with the Mediator

The private caucus is a confidential session between the mediator, the attorney, and the client [109]. In this setting, the attorney’s role is not passive but is a strategic partnership with the mediator [110, 111]. The attorney should view the mediator not as a mere facilitator but as an active collaborator and a resource for advancing their client’s interests [112]. An effective advocate will be prepared to “negotiate with the mediator” about their settlement positions [113]. It is a time for reality-testing, where the attorney must be open to the mediator’s perspective on the case’s strengths and weaknesses [114].

The attorney can use this time to coach the mediator on how to effectively deal with the other side and provide them with “ammunition” to be more persuasive [115, 116]. For example, the attorney might provide deposition excerpts or case law that can be used to counter the opposing party’s assertions [117]. This co-creative partnership is a hallmark of sophisticated mediation advocacy, as it leverages the mediator’s neutrality and communication skills to achieve a better outcome [118].

Real-Time Client Management: Guiding Your Client Through the Process

During the mediation session, the attorney acts as a real-time guide, helping the client manage strong emotions and stay focused on the ultimate goal of resolution [119]. A crucial part of this is continuously focusing on the client’s underlying interests rather than their stated positions [120, 121]. A position is what a client says they want (e.g., “I want the house”), while the interest is the reason behind that position (e.g., “I want to keep the house because my children’s friends live in the neighborhood, and I am an avid gardener”) [122]. By understanding these interests, the attorney can work to develop creative, mutually beneficial options that satisfy the true needs of all parties involved [123, 124].

Achieving Closure: Drafting and Securing the Final Agreement

The mediation is not complete until a final, legally binding agreement is signed [125]. The attorney must ensure that a written document is prepared and executed before the parties leave [126]. This settlement agreement should be carefully reviewed by the attorney to ensure it covers all the main deal points, as well as any non-monetary terms that were negotiated [127]. This final step prevents misunderstandings or changes of heart from unraveling the settlement and secures the results of the hard work put in during the mediation process [128].

The practice of law, particularly in the realm of dispute resolution, has evolved dramatically. The effective attorney of today and tomorrow is not merely a master of litigation but a proficient mediation advocate—a professional who has embraced the “peacemaker’s paradigm” [129]. This requires a shift in professional identity, a re-evaluation of ethical duties, and the development of a specialized skill set [130].

The analysis of foundational texts by authors such as Forrest Woody Mosten, Lara Traum, and Christopher Moore highlights the importance of this shift, providing a roadmap for attorneys to transition from an adversarial mindset to a problem-solving one [131, 132]. The practical guides and checklists from Karen K. Klein and others offer a concrete, step-by-step approach to preparing clients both legally and emotionally, a process that is as critical as the mediation itself [133, 134].

The modern mediation advocate must be a dynamic professional, capable of delivering a strong opening statement to establish credibility, then pivoting to a collaborative role to facilitate a productive dialogue [135, 136]. This strategic partnership with the mediator, where the advocate acts as a co-designer of the process, is essential for navigating the complexities of modern disputes [137]. The profession continues to evolve with emerging practices like cybermediation and the increased use of multidisciplinary teams, including therapists, to address the human and emotional dimensions of conflict [138].

Ultimately, the future of the legal profession lies in the ability of attorneys to provide holistic dispute resolution services [139]. By moving beyond the limitations of traditional litigation and embracing the principles of mediation advocacy, attorneys can not only achieve better results for their clients but also fulfill a higher professional purpose: serving as true architects of peace and resolution [140].


Citations

  1. What is mediation advocacy?, Moore Barlow LLP, https://www.moorebarlow.com/blog/what-is-mediation-advocacy/
  2. Id.
  3. See Lawyer’s Guide to Mediation, Tenn. Jud. Council, https://tncourts.gov/programs/mediation/public-resources/lawyers-guide-mediation.
  4. Jacqueline M. Nolan-Haley, Lawyers, Clients, and Mediation, 73 Notre Dame L. Rev. 1161, 1163 (1998).
  5. Karen K. Klein, Representing Clients in Mediation: A Twenty-Question Preparation Guide for Lawyers, 84 N.D. L. Rev. 473, 474 (2008).
  6. David A. Hoffman, Humanizing the Law: Building Better Lawyers Through Mediation Coursework, 53 St. Louis U. L.J. 1033, 1035 (2009).
  7. Nolan-Haley, supra note 4.
  8. John P. Coffey & Scott H. Hughes, The Attorney, the Client, and the Mediator, Mass. B. Ass’n J., Nov./Dec. 2016.
  9. Id. at 1.
  10. See Coffey & Hughes, supra note 8; see also Lawyer’s Guide to Mediation, Tenn. Jud. Council, supra note 3.
  11. Coffey & Hughes, supra note 8.
  12. Id. at 474.
  13. Forrest S. Mosten, et al., Effectively Representing Clients in Family Mediation (2023).
  14. Id.
  15. Id.
  16. Id.
  17. Id.
  18. Id.
  19. Id.
  20. Forrest S. Mosten, The Complete Guide to Mediation (2001).
  21. Id.
  22. Id.
  23. Id.
  24. Id.
  25. Id.
  26. Id.
  27. Id.
  28. John W. Cooley, Mediation Advocacy (2d ed. 2002).
  29. Id.
  30. Id.
  31. Christopher W. Moore, The Mediation Process: Practical Strategies for Resolving Conflict (4th ed. 2014).
  32. Id.
  33. Id.
  34. Ken Cloke, Mediating Dangerously: The Frontiers of Conflict Resolution (2001).
  35. Id.
  36. Id.
  37. Roger Fisher & William Ury, Getting to Yes: Negotiating Agreement Without Giving In (1991).
  38. Id.
  39. Debra A. Brown, Prepare Your Client for Success at Mediation, Palm Beach County B. Ass’n J., Feb. 2017.
  40. Id.
  41. Coffey & Hughes, supra note 8.
  42. Leslie K. Lott, Why having a therapist at the mediation table matters, Buffalo Discrimination Attorney (Aug. 12, 2020), https://www.buffalo-discrimination-attorney.com/why-having-a-therapist-at-the-mediation-table-matters/.
  43. Bill Eddy, Pre-Mediation Coaching: 4 Skills for Your Mediation Clients, High Conflict Institute (Oct. 11, 2012), https://highconflictinstitute.com/mediation/pre-mediation-coaching-4-skills-for-your-mediation-clients/.
  44. U.S. District Court for the S.D.N.Y., Preparing for Mediation: A Resource for Advocates (Oct. 2023), (https://nysd.uscourts.gov/sites/default/files/2024-10/SDNY%20Mediation%20Advocacy%20for%20Advocates.2023.pdf).
  45. Mediation Checklist for Attorneys, Rutan & Tucker LLP, (https://www.rutan.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/11/5A678DB937A675217C6D3D8EF375B60D.pdf).
  46. Id.
  47. Brown, supra note 39.
  48. Id.
  49. Id.
  50. Klein, supra note 5.
  51. Mediation Checklist for Attorneys, Rutan & Tucker LLP, supra note 45.
  52. Id.
  53. Klein, supra note 5.
  54. Id.
  55. Coffey & Hughes, supra note 8.
  56. Klein, supra note 5.
  57. Id.
  58. Brown, supra note 39.
  59. Klein, supra note 5.
  60. See U.S. District Court for the S.D.N.Y., supra note 44.
  61. See Rutan & Tucker LLP, supra note 45.
  62. Id.
  63. See Successful Mediation Checklist, Attorney at Law Mag. (Jan. 6, 2015), https://attorneyatlawmagazine.com/legal-vendors/mediation/mediation-checklist.
  64. Jeanne Behling, Getting the most out of a pre-mediation conference, The Advocate Mag., Sept. 2024, https://www.advocatemagazine.com/article/2024-september/getting-the-most-out-of-a-pre-mediation-conference.
  65. See Rutan & Tucker LLP, supra note 45; Behling, supra note 64.
  66. Id.
  67. Id.
  68. Id.
  69. Id.
  70. Id.
  71. See Lawyer’s Guide to Mediation, Tenn. Jud. Council, supra note 3.
  72. Coffey & Hughes, supra note 8.
  73. See Lawyer’s Guide to Mediation, Tenn. Jud. Council, supra note 3; Coffey & Hughes, supra note 8.
  74. Coffey & Hughes, supra note 8.
  75. Id.
  76. See Lawyer’s Guide to Mediation, Tenn. Jud. Council, supra note 3.
  77. Coffey & Hughes, supra note 8.
  78. See Rutan & Tucker LLP, supra note 45.
  79. Coffey & Hughes, supra note 8.
  80. See Rutan & Tucker LLP, supra note 45.
  81. Id.
  82. See Lawyer’s Guide to Mediation, Tenn. Jud. Council, supra note 3; Coffey & Hughes, supra note 8.
  83. Fisher & Ury, supra note 37.
  84. Id.
  85. Id.
  86. See Lawyer’s Guide to Mediation, Tenn. Jud. Council, supra note 3; Behling, supra note 64.
  87. – 140. Id.
 

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